Thriving With Intensity: Mining the Magic From Over-Excitabilities
Sep 27, 2018 at 04:30 PM (GMT-08:00) Pacific Time (US & Canada); Tijuana
Long term fulfillment comes not from moments of happiness, but from the experience of being alive in action towards meaningful goals. Taking active control of our lives and living in ways that are congruent with our values. The intensity of over-excitabilities can make creating such lives both more important and more difficult. For children, over-excitabilities often underlie behavioral and self-regulation challenges that interfere with social expectations at school and with age mates. Parents and educators often help children manage over-excitabilities with behavior modification strategies and environmental changes. These strategies are often effective for allowing intense children to develop in mainstream environments. Many adults see this as the goal of working with such children. However, these strategies often fail to teach children how to get the benefit of their sensitivities as they develop. When understood more deeply, OEs can be the foundation on which an intensely satisfying life can be built. Fulfillment and meaning are felt experiences, emotional states. For gifted individuals with emotional over-excitabilities, the absence of such experiences can be devastating. Dissatisfaction and existential depression can result. Moreover, once someone has had an experience of deeply fulfilling or meaningful activity, the drive to recreate it can be profound. In this presentation, I will explore how people can work with their OEs to facilitate self-actualization. The gifts of finely tuned sensitivities are many. Once a few tools are identified for getting the most out of OEs, the potential for self-awareness and life-changing transformations are profound. Using a coaching and leaderships skills framework, I will explore how to discover the gifts in our individual OEs and how to use those gifts to create more fulfillment in any moment. I will provide language and exercises to use working with both adults and children.